This is going to be a short post. This is intentional, because I don’t want to say much. I’m reposting the “Transgender Basics” video again, because I think it’s worth watching again. However, this time I want to focus on — and ask my readers to focus on — the segment titled “Gender complexity.” It starts at around 5:11 and goes until almost 9:00. Listen to the experiences recounted by the trans* people who talk about their experiences growing up. Try to put yourself in their shoes.
I cannot begin to imagine what it’s like to identify with a gender that’s different from the sex I was assigned at birth. I cannot imagine what it’s like to know in my heart that I identify with one gender while having friends, family, society telling me I can’t possibly be the gender I identify with.
Listening to this video, I’m trying to imagine what that would be like, because this is the reality of the people speaking in the video. If I want to undestand them and support them, I need to struggle with that reality, I need to try to imagine what that reality is like. I need to try and understand that reality and how that affects them, even if only imperfectly.
 One of the greatest pitfalls of privileged people everywhere is that just because they can’t imagine a marginalized person’s reality, they subsequently deny that reality.