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I absolutely love the caption for this LOLCat picture!  I totally agree with it, too.

It reminds me of my days of volunteering at Lollypop Farm.  I and another volunteer would often go around the room together reading the paperwork for each cat and comment together on the reasons the cat was surrendered for the shelter.  I remember the one time we found a paper with the reason, "New boyfriend is allergic to cats."  The other volunteer and I looked at each other and said almost in unison, "So get rid of the new boyfriend!"

That's still my attitude.  While I'm sympathetic to people with allergies, I'm also sympathetic to cats and animals in general.  I've had cats all my life and I can't imagine ever not having a cat in my life.  And I'd have a hard time making things work -- or even wanting to make them work -- with a guy who had a problem with cats -- even a medical problem like being allergic.  My honest answer would be, "Look, the cats were here first.  And quite frankly, I know for a fact they'll stick around.  I doubt I can be quite as sure about you.  So guess where my loyalties are going to stay?"

If that means I end up being a crazy cat lady, I think I can live with that.  It's more appealing than the alternative at this point.

One of the projects I worked on today was to describe what I would want to do on a first date if I was planning it. I decided to post it here and see what my readers thought.

For me, the first date is all about getting to know each other and making that first connection. It sets the first stone in the foundation of the rest of the relationship.

For me, that means going someplace quiet and somewhat intimate where we can have either coffee or a full meal. Atmosphere is of the utmost importance, so someplace like Boulder Coffee Company or The Old Toad (before the rush sets in) would be ideal. We would sit and chat for an hour or so as we sipped at our coffee or savored our meals, allowing the thread of conversation to flit to whatever topics came naturally.

If things went well and it was warm enough outside, we would then take a short walk, perhaps a Schoen place or in one of the parks around the city. Ideally we would hold hands or walk arm-in-arm, enjoying the time outdoors and each other's company.

Conversation would continue during the walk, but it would be a little more sparse than it was at dinner. There would also be some comfortable silences as we walked along, taking in our surroundings. After all, such moments are important, and a good couple knows how to appreciate them without filling them with too much chatter.

If bad weather made walking infeasible, then we would take in a nice concert or play. Again, this would be a time to enjoy some quiet moments one another, becoming comfortable with and enjoying one another's presence.

In either case, we would eventually end the date, preferably with a quiet moment where we could exchange our goodbyes and a hug, if not a tender kiss.

So, what do you think? Would you enjoy such a date?