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Short Story: The Weaver and the Businessman

Traditional loom work by a woman in Konya, Turkey

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The old woman continued her weaving.  Her slender, gnarled fingers deftly moved along the loom, positioning threads and locking them in place.  She studied her handiwork for several seconds before speaking to the younger man who stood behind her.  “What’s on your mind, Jeffrey?”

“You make the most beautiful tapestries, Grandmother.”

“Thank you.  I’ve had many years to practice.”

“And yet, it takes you so long to finish a single one.”

The woman frowned and her hand paused in its work.  “Good craftsmanship takes time and patience, Dear.”

“Perhaps.  But there are machines that would allow you to work faster, Grandmother.”

“And those machines would rob me of the joy I find in my work.  Working faster would be a poor substitute for the care and love I put into each tapestry.”

“But working faster would mean having more tapestries to sell.”

The woman sighed and turned to face the forty year old man.  She noted that he was still in the dress pants and shirt that his job required, though he had taken off the tie and jacket.  “And that would mean more money.”  She smiled as his pale face flushed at her words.  “Yes, I thought you might be coming to that.  It usually does with you.”

“Grandmother-“

“No, Jeffrey,” she said in a soft, firm tone.  “Listen to your old grandmother.  You are a good man.  You’re smart, and your business sense has provided much for our family.  For that, I am proud of you.

“But sometimes you seem to only think in terms of money.  And for that, I feel sorry for you.  Because some things are more important than money.  And my weaving is one of those things.

“You’re right.  I could buy machines that could help me produce a single tapestry in a few days, rather than the weeks it now takes me.  And if I was doing this for the money, it would make perfect sense to do exactly that.

“But I don’t do this for the money.  I have money enough as it is – as hard as it may be for you to believe that.  Instead, I weave for the love of weaving.

“When I weave, I create something beautiful, as you already noted.  I create it thread by thread and row by row.  Each move I make is an act of love and creation, a chance to pour another ounce of my soul into each tapestry.  That’s something I cherish.  It’s something that the money from a thousand machine-produced tapestries could never buy.  And I’m not willing to give that up just to collect money I don’t need.  It’s too high a price to pay.”

“But what of the things you could buy?  Things that would make your life easier?  More comfortable?”

“An easy life is overrated, as are excess comforts.  I have comforts enough.  Any more would make me value my life less, I imagine.”

“Are you saying I have it too easy, then?”

“That’s not for me to say, Dear.  I’m merely saying what’s right for me.  You’ll have to decide what’s right for you.”

“Oh.”

The woman paused a moment.  “I do admit that I worry about you at times, though.”

“You do?”

“Yes.  I sometimes wonder if you’ve lost sight of why you became a businessman.”

“What do you mean?”

“I remember when you first went off to college.  Yo were so excited to learn about business management.  The first time you came home, you talked incessantly about your classes.  I didn’t understand most of what you said, but I loved your passion and excitement.

“You took that passion and excitement into your first job, too.  You spoke of the challenges you faced enthusiastically.  You loved the problems and puzzles you solved.  Back then, it was about the adventure.

“But at some point, it seemed like you began focusing on the money.  And the passion changed.  Some days, I wonder if it’s there at all.”

“I see.”  The man sat down heavily.

“Do you, Dear?  Don’t misunderstand me.  Money’s not bad.  And you’ve always made a lot of money doing what you do, which is right.  But before, you thought of the money as a side effect of doing something you loved.  And now, it seems as though the money is your main motivation – maybe even your only motivation.  And that change seems to have stolen something from you.”

The pair sat in silence for a few moments.  Finally, Jeffrey spoke.  “I think I need to ponder this some more.”

“I hope you do, Dear.  I’d really like to see that fire in your eyes again when you talk about your latest venture or investment.  It’s a wonderful sight.”

“It’s a wonderful feeling, too.  I think I’d forgotten that.”  He walked to the door, then paused.  “Grandmother?”

“The old woman looked up from the weaving she had returned to.  “Yes, Dear?”

“How did you ever get so wise?”

“Years of living and learning.”  She paused, then added, “And weaving.”

“Weaving?”

“Yes, Dear.  When you pend this much time in front of a loom, you have plenty of time to think.”

He chuckled as he left the room.

It’s all about how you use it

I have to admit that I have a strange relationship with money. I’m not going to sit here and try to tell anyone — or even myself — that I don’t like having money. If my boss was to stop by my desk tomorrow and ask me if I’d like a raise, I’m not going to say no. After all, I like being able to spend money on various things.

However, I don’t feel like a slave to money, either. I do understand that ultimately, the only money I really need is the money to buy the necessities for staying alive. Anything after that is gravy. And I love my gravy.

However, I’ve also realized that how I spend my excess money is extremely important to me. I’m not the kind to become obsessed with buying the latest gadget or must have thing. Nor am I obssessed with keeping up with the latest fashion (not that men’s fashions change nearly as drastically as women’s fashions, anyway). That’s not my style at all.

Granted, I like to shop for quality when I do buy things. So when I go out shopping for new work clothes, I’m as liable to hit something a bit more expensive than Wal-Mart or even Target. (Besids, those stores often stop carrying clothes at one size below what I need, or only carry clothes my size that are horribly tacky.) And when I bought a laptop a couple months ago, I spent the extra money to get one I’d really like.

But at the same time, I don’t care to buy a lot of “stuff” just to have “stuff.” For example, a couple of years ago, I began to re-evaluate my attitude towards computer games. At the time, I was buying a new computer game every other week. I’d play each game I bought for about two weeks (often never mastering them or beating them if they had a quest mode of play), then get bored with it and never touched it again. As I noticed this pattern, I really asked if the time I spent playing each game was really worth the $40 a title I was paying. I decided that it wasn’t, so I’ve changed my game buying habits. I still buy the occasional computer game (and still often play them for a couple of weeks), but it’s something I only do every couple months or so. I found it hasn’t detracted from my life at all, and I’ve certainly found more enjoyable uses for the money I’m saving.

On the other hand, I think one of the best spenditures of money I’ve ever made was back when my niece, Alyssa, was two years old. Disney had re-released “The Little Mermaid” just before Christmas, so there was a merchandizing craze going on at the time. During my Christmas shopping, I had found a four foot long stuffed Flounder (the character from the movie, not a real flounder). I decided to buy it for Alyssa for Christmas.

Christmas Eve, my sister and her family had dinner with my parents and I at my parents’ home (I was living at home at the time). My sister decided to let Alyssa open one gift that evening after dinner. Because of an incident that had happened when my sister and her family were heading up from New Jersey, we all agreed she should unwrap Flounder.

I cannot begin to do justice to the experience of watching Alyssa open her gift. When she finally got the wrapping paper off and looked into the eyes of a Flounder almost as big as she was, she let out a shrill screech. The next five minutes, all this little girl could do was hug her new friend tight and screech, “He’s so cute!” It was a beautiful sight, and I can’t think of a time where I got so much joy out of $40 I had spent.

In many ways, money is more about making my life comfortable. It’s about creating moments like that, where I get to add to and share in other people’s pleasure. Whether I’m buying presents for my nieces and nephews, treating my friends to a meal, or giving an overworked and underpaid server an outrageously generous tip, I enjoy seeing the smiles it can bring to people’s faces.

Money can’t buy happiness, but it can certainly be used to create situations that encourage happiness.