As is normally the case, I was listening to a local morning show during the five minute drive to work today. I happened to catch the hosts discussing the question, “How many people have a thing for their boss?” Having just “established” that there are not a lot of guys with women for bosses (surely a topic that deserves its own blog post or twenty), they immediately started focusing on women who had a thing for their male bosses.
One of them (Duffy, if memory serves) argued that it would make sense that a lot of women would have a thing for their bosses. After all, bosses “have money and power.” Because, you know, that’s all a woman is looking for when she’s “on the prowl” for a man.
Let that sink in, all you women and men who love women. A local radio host just suggested that all a woman needs to be attracted to a guy is for him to have money and/or power. Things like looks, personality, being interesting, having mutual interests, and oh, I don’t know, being a decent human being don’t factor into the equation at all. Or if they do, they can be easily overruled by the possession of money and power.
So which tropes are these guys intending to support? Women as gold-diggers? Women as manipulative shrews who only want power over others and who are willing to exert it through their man? Women as weak people who simply want someone else who can pamper and protect them? I don’t know (and don’t care) what they intended, but they’re certainly propagating all of those notions.
They’re most likely propagating a few others I’m not even thinking of right now. Readers are welcome — nay, encouraged — to point them out in the comments section.
Also, authentic manhood means having money and power.
The fun thing about patriarchal narratives is that very few people, men or women, ever come out winning.
Good point! I hadn’t even considered what these statements implied about men. Thanks, Fannie.
Any sexual act that is carried out between two people of the same sex has never in the past, is not in the present and never will be in the future anything but a violation of the God-given gift of human sexualiity.