Category Archives: Witchcraft

Witchy Questions: What is your preferred element?

This post was inspired by Question #23 from this list.

Despite the fact that I don'[t really put much stock into the four elements when it comes to my rituals or magical workings, it is very clear to me which element I most strongly relate to and feel drawn to. That is the element of water.

To me, water is about adaptability. It flows and shapes itself to fit into and fill whatever surrounds it. And yet,when it gets moving, it can also be a force to contend with, wearing away at sand and soil. Bowling over anything that is not sufficiently anchored to withstand its flow.

When I think of water, I think of the depths of the ocean, the deep dark places that have not been fully explored and may still hold secrets and treasures. They beckon to me much like the underworld beckons my journeying soul, and much for the same reason.

Water is often associated with both spirit and emotion and both of those aspects of myself are quite dominant in my overall personality as well. Water reminds me of the deep well of feeling that I can draw upon within my own soul, yet reminds me to take care lest I drown there. Water is about exploring and daring and risking. Water is about taking the plunge into the unknown, both in our own psyches and the world around us.

That all speaks to me in a profound way.

Witchy Questions: Do you have an altar?

This post was inspired by Question #22 from this list.

This is the post where I confess that I’m probably not a very good witch in the eyes of many other witches. I do not currently and don’t think I have every had a permanent altar set up. It’s something I keep thinking I should do do. I’m especially revisiting this question now that I’m back making my way through “The Essential Guide to Possession, Depossession, and Divine Relationships.” I figure working that closely with Freyja again, it would be best to have an altar. Right now, I simply set up candle on the small table my computer monitor sits on (the computer itself is on the floor) when I want to meditate or pray to her. It would be nice to get out her statue again and set up a proper altar.

Joe and I also hope to be able to set up a dedicated altar room when we get our own place. I know I certainly miss the dedicated altar room that our former coven has. Very convenient.

Speaking of Joe, I find myself wondering if any books or resources out there talk about multi-witch families and what a challenge altar space (or even just spaces for altars) can become an issue. Joe and I honor different gods, and I think ti would be ultimately nice if we each had our own separate altars for that in addition tot he shared altar of our working space. That means a minimum of three different spaces for altars, though. That gets challenging.

Witchy Questions: Do you use feathers, claws, fur, pelt, skeletons/bones, or any other animal body part for magical work?

This post was inspired by Question #21 from this list.

Ever since I got interested in seidr, I’ve thought it might be nice to have an actual pair of catskin gloves to wear only while doing seidr. That’s because the volva who came to the Greenland village to prophecy was described as wearing them. This also makes sense to me because cats are dear to Freyja, who is both my patron goddess and the teacher of seidr to gods and men alike.

I’m not sure I’d ever get such a pair of gloves, however. I’m not sure where I’d even go to get them. I suppose I would have to have a pair custom made, but again wouldn’t even begin to know how to find someone with the appropriate skills. I feel like if I ever really need this, this is something that my queen or some other spiritual helper would have to pull a few strings t make sure I make the right connections at the right time.

Beyond that, I have little to know interest in involving animal bones, skins or other such paraphernalia in my personal magical practice. While I have a great deal of respect for those who do and understand the practice, it’s just not for me.

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Witchy Questions: What is your favorite gemstone?

This blog post was inspired by Question #20 from this list.

My sweet little keyring.

About a year ago, Joe an I were checking out one of the local new age stores and i ran across the keyring pictured in this post. The stone on it is a citrine, which is one of my favorite stones. It is a stone that offers protection against negativity by purifying it and dispersing it. I prefer this to onyx or hematite, which absorb negativity, requiring you to regularly cleanse them. I am a lazy witch, so a stone that does it’s job without need of maintenance on my part is always a plus.

I appreciate being able to keep this little citrine on me because as someone who is highly sensitive to other peoples energies and moods, having things that can act as filters or even a first line of defense is good for me. And also, it helps keeping my own moods and insecurities from mucking up my aura too badly.

When people do magic without even realizing it

Surprisingly, this is not a rant about how certain religious groups cough cough try to make a distinction between their actions and rites and “witchcraft.” I mean, I could write a blog post or twelve about that, but this is not that post.

Instead, I want to write about people who do something that’s quite magical, but don’t give themselves credit for being so amazingly magical.

Let me give an example from over ten years ago. It was back during the time I was spending a lot of time on Witchy, Wiccan, and Pagan web forums. We got into a discussion that delved into magic to help children. I forget the exact details or parameters of the discussion. I just remember one particular person’s contribution. She was a relatively new witch — I think she’s only been practicing for a few months and she described something that — according to her own words — “wasn’t exactly witchy or magical, but helped her small child when they were having bad dreams.” She then proceeded to describe how she painted this absolutely beautiful dragon on the awall at the head of her child’s bed and told the child that it would protect them. Amd that took care of the nightmares.

Reading her post, I just about lost my shit and quickly shot off a post expressing that I found this a beautiful and creative solution and that it was abso-fucking-lutely magical at its heart and she needed to give herself more credit to it. I reminded her that what she did is sympathetic magic at its heart and that I personally suspected that the dragon she painted became very real on a level that was importat to her child. That’s all magic. And that is a hill I was and am still willing to die on.

I’ve found that a lot of people often don’t give themselves credit to just how magical and creative they are. They come up with ideas like painting a dragon in their child’s room to help them overcome nightmares and don’t really stop to think about how spectacular that is. Granted, I get it. They’re just happy their child isn’t having nightmares anymore. I don’t blame them for that. But I feel like they also need to take just a moment to pat themselves on the back. Because this witch is more than ready to tip my pointy hat to their amazing creativity when it comes to magical solutions that they don’t even realize are magical.

Don’t bring victim blaming into the Craft

(Updated 17 April 2024 to change the shortcode to a tweet to a direct link.)

On Wednesday, Twitter user @kelmardino sent out this tweet:

I have to say that I completely understand her reaction to that image. I had a similarly negative reaction to it. I felt so strongly about what I had read that I decided to tweet a thread about it. I’ve since decided to turn that thread into this post.

I will note that the message in the image is not completely without merit. When it comes to magic, there are some nuggets of helpful advice in there. But they are buried in what is overall a heaping pile of garbage. So in the interest in addressing this state of affairs, I’d like to take each point in the image and study them for nuggets of truth while combating the awfulness they propagate.

“Always stay positive.”

Okay, I’m going to start by taking this point in a different direction than was probably intended. When planning a magical working, you should focus on what is wanted, not what is unwanted or what you want to avoid. Magic is supposed to be about positive action, like “soothe my muscles,” rather than negating action, like “stop the pain in my shoulders.” This phrasing can make a difference, especiailly when you start looking for “mundane” acts (Remember that the distinction between “mundane” and “magic” is actually nonexistence) to help achieve your goal.

Taking the statement the way it was probably intended is highly problematic. It’s okay to have doubts. It’s okay to be frustrated. Too many people who advise you to “stay positive” are basically telling you repress things that are unhealthy to repress.

Now, when you’re doing magic, it’s good to temporarily do your best to set your doubts and fears aside to work on focusing your energies toward your goals. But this should never be a permanent state of being.

“Say it like it’s already done.”

There is value to saying something is done and/or visualizing things as if there they’ve already happened. If nothing else, this helps get us excited and motivates us to keep working, especially in our “mundane” efforts.

“Do not spend time thinking about anything opposite to what you want.”

I see little value in this one outside of the magical working itself. Acknowledging that things don’t always go exactly as we like is important. And considering contingency plans or potential “course corrections” to still achieve our goals is smart. Also, if your goal does not manifest (and it happens to everyone at times), adherents to the sixth point will use this to blame you for your “failure.” We’ll talk more about that when we get there.

“Meditate on what you want.”

It’s good to spend time focusing on what you want and putting that energy into getting it. But it takes more than just meditation to accomplish something, and it’s at this point in the list where I start feeling like we lose sight of that. Accomplishing our goals also takes physical effort. If we want a new job, we have to work on writing our resume and going to interviews as well as lighting a green candle and visualizing the perfect job.

“See it, smell it, feel it, hear it.”

In a magical working, it’s good practice to involve as many senses as possible. Especially in visualization. It’s a way to get our whole body involved and committed to the effort of accomplishing our goals. However, I again note that a good visualization alone is not going to make it happen. And I feel like this is another set up to explain away the “failed spells” as somehow the individual’s fault. “You just didn’t make it real enough in your mind!”

“If it’s real in your brain, it will be real in the physical.”

This statement should be shot directly into the sun without fanfare. There is nothing redeemable about it. It is problematic in so many ways. For starters, it’s false. There are limits to what you can accomplish with magic. Some things are just too big. Some things would involve overcoming many other forces and factors in this world.

Part of learning witchcraft is learning what you really can do and how to best go from there. Sometimes, a problem has to be broken down. Sometimes, you have to figure out how to get to point X before you can move on to point Y. You can’t get to point Y in a single jump.

And again, this whole list sounds like you’re just going to meditate imagine something into existence. That’s not how this works, either. It takes effort. It takes time.

One of the things I appreciated about the Builder’s of the Adytum teaching program (which I never completed) is that they stressed that a person’s goals had to be (1) attainable and (2) often broken down into a series of goals. It’s a teaching that protected against a lot of the sloppy thinking that seems to come from the “manifestation” crow.

It’s also important to remember that some goals just aren’t obtainable for various reasons. So don’t blame yourself if something you want doesn’t come to pass.

And that’s the ultimate problem with that last statement. According to it, if you don’t get what you wanted, it’s because you did something wrong. You didn’t believe enough. You didn’t make it real enough in your mind. That’s victim blaming. Fuck that noise.

Witchy Questions: Do you worship nature?

This post was inspired by Question #19 from this list.

In order to judge whether I worship nature, I feel we just first understand what it means to worship something. Worship is one of those words that is often tainted by our primarily Christian culture and the images of what it means to worship something in the most vocal and visible expressions of Christianity.

In that context, worship has taken on a connotation of giving something — usually the Christian god — ultimate praise and honor, usually at the price of bowing and scraping and humbling (or humiliating) oneself before that which is being worshiped. I do worship nature in that sense. Hell, I worship nothing and no one in that sense.

However, if we look at a more general definition of the word, we see that to worship something is to give it honor and adoration. Looking at the word’s etymology, its roots suggest acknowledging worth. In this sense, yes I do worship nature. I honor it and adore it and enjoy expressing that honor and adoration. But then, seeing as I see everything and everyone as sacred, you could apply that same definition and say that I worship everything and everyone. Nature is no more or less worthy of my honor than my husband, my friend, my cat, my coworker, or the person around the world and have never met.

Witchy Questions: Do you have a book of shadows?
If so, how is it written and/or set up?

This post was inspired by Questions #18 from this list.

I’m going to get a bit pedantic in this post. You see, it’s my understanding and opinion that a lot of people conflate a Book fo Shadows and a witch’s notebook/journal or grimoire.

A Book of Shadows is a book that contains the rituals and lore that is passed down as a part of a given tradition in order to preserve it. Part of the training process in such traditions involves making a copy of the Book of Shadows by hand. Usually, this involves talking over what you are copying and learning more about each bit of written lore (including the unwritten lore ore mysteries that go along with it). I’m not part of such a tradition, so I don’t have a Book of Shadow. At this point, I’m not trying to create my own tradition, so i see no need to create a Book of Shadows. If I ever create my own unique and cohesive craft practice that others might be interested in learning and imitating, I might actually write out such a book.

What a lot of people call a Book of Shadows is more of a journal or notebook of spells, often called a grimoire. These are much more deeply personal and tend to represent a witches personal experimentation with magic. Some such books will even include information about the results of trying a given spell in a certain situation. I don’t keep this kind of journal or book either. Part of that is simply from the practical part that I am disorganized and lazy. Plus I never learned how to take notes in school, and it feels like keeping such a book would be far easier and even more attractive to someone with that skill set.

I also rationalize my choice with the fact that I’m not really one to do the same spell more than once. I prefer to tailor my magical workings to a given situation and base how approach it to what I have on hand. Granted, I suspect that I might find such a book useful to keep track of and remember clever turns of phrase or really beautiful chants that I might re-use in a new working. But again,I lack the self discipline for that so far.

Witchy Questions: Do you write your own spells?

This post was inspired by Question #17 from this list.

Back in April, I wrote a post about my issues with finding spells on the Internet. I half feel like cut and pasting that post into this one, as it basically brings out one of the reasons I think writing our own spells (or constructing our own magical workings, to use my preferred language) is practically essential. Figuring out how to go about doing a given magical working myself makes it more meaningful to me. It resonates with my own energies more than following someone else’s instructions. And it puts more of my own effort and energies into the working. After all, always remember that magic begins building when you decide what you want to accomplish, not when you start lighting candles, chanting, or whatever other ritual actions you perform as part of the working.

Witchy Questions: Would you consider yourself knowledgeable?

This post was inspired by Question #16 from this list.

When it comes to witchcraft, being knowledgeable is an interesting idea. There’s so many things to know it’s literally impossible to know all of them. Fortunately, it’s also not necessary to know all of them. You can focus on certain areas and learn all you possibly can and remain blissfully ignorant. Personally, I can teach classes (and have done so) on runes and give satisfactory tarot readings, but couldn’t tell much more about Kabbalah beyond the fact that there are ten sefirot and give you the names of two or three of them.

Even with the things I’m most knowledgeable about, i know there are things that I could still learn. I can expand my experiences and understanding infinitely more. So to the true witch — and I dare say any honest seeker of knowledge — I would argue that the greatest knowledge one can possess is knowledge that there’s still more to learn.