This is going to be a short post. This is intentional, because I don’t want to say much. I’m reposting the “Transgender Basics” video again, because I think it’s worth watching again. However, this time I want to focus on — and ask my readers to focus on — the segment titled “Gender complexity.” It starts at around 5:11 and goes until almost 9:00. Listen to the experiences recounted by the trans* people who talk about their experiences growing up. Try to put yourself in their shoes.
I cannot begin to imagine what it’s like to identify with a gender that’s different from the sex I was assigned at birth. I cannot imagine what it’s like to know in my heart that I identify with one gender while having friends, family, society telling me I can’t possibly be the gender I identify with.
Listening to this video, I’m trying to imagine what that would be like, because this is the reality[1] of the people speaking in the video. If I want to undestand them and support them, I need to struggle with that reality, I need to try to imagine what that reality is like. I need to try and understand that reality and how that affects them, even if only imperfectly.
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[1] One of the greatest pitfalls of privileged people everywhere is that just because they can’t imagine a marginalized person’s reality, they subsequently deny that reality.